Every person has a story about their past and present events on their journey.The processing of the negatives and emotions can be helpful only to the person sharing the story.The person listening can be affected if they allow this to process in their own story of their life.As a radio host and spiritual counselor to many of my clients from my radio shows in the last thirty years I have heard many stories.All the stories have the same emotional aspects.The needs and wants for change is in the words expressed in every story. A desperation to change something or someone is the main theme found in their stories.The stories are the focus on the outside of their self and not on the inner child that I believe is the cause for the emotions in the adult.I have written many papers on this subject.The adult feels they have lost control over others and therefore, feel they have no control of their own choices.The truth is we have no control over others and the person must come to this fact before any progress of change occurs.Controlling the emotions of the inner child brings awareness and change in emotions and creates maturity.The adult starts to take accountability and responsibility for their emotions and doesn't react to others because their responses change with a new perceptive of who they are.The questions of why are being asked by the inner child because of the insecurities in the adult.
For many centuries in our world, we have told stories about many things we have experienced.As we tell the story we embellish the details to make the story interesting to others.Somethings the "devil is in the details" and this adds to the drama effect of the story.Every story we heard coming from the world has a good and bad characters to keep the audience rooting for the good or bad.We reflected the belief's and opinions we created in our own processing of information from the outside of us.As I read or listening to a story somebody tells me I can see or heard the worldly ideas coming through the words used.We are in the spirit of the words we use and changes in our words does help to change our perceptions of our inner reality.Reality can be transformed and the changes are inner and not more outward.The person that keeps repeating their story of woes needs to stop verbalizing the story especially to people who take the story seriously and agrees with them their life is a mess.What good will it do to agree with the negatives how does that help the person?Are they really seeking agreement or are they seeking pity?In most cases they want pity and the words " I am so sorry" I really don't say sorry to many people because they have heard that sorry full statement so many times and this doesn't create trust between me and them.They don't need more sorrows they are depressed and need hope.Creating hope brings them higher in thought.You might say I understand your story and there is hope for you.This has been my approach for many years. I would rather not hear their story because I know it is coming from their depressive state of consciousness. By changing the state that they are in of the story is a quick way to begin the healing.In some cases, they won't receive the hope and this requires the counselor or friend listening to the pity story to say I don't need your story to understand what you are going through.In the first place, they wouldn't have asked for your help if they didn't need it.Wait for the asking in all conditions of each situation in your helping others.The asking may mean they are ready to receive make sure by asking them are you ready to change.If they say yes to change within themselves,
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