Are we of the world or are we in the world? Are the children of God being deceived and harmed by the ways of the world? We are creatures of a spiritual nature not of a worldly nature and we are followers of the Christ.The rules of the man's ego set conditions in order to control and take free will from the children.Sometimes we are lead astray by the words they use and don't see the error in their thinking.Each word in a phrase or sentence should be discerned for the meaning and the context.
Here is an example" Ague as soon as possible" to see if you are compatible in a relationship.Did you read that? How does arguing help form or needed in a relationship to help it grow?Why does compatibility need to be tested?In this article that was written by a marriage counselor was a post on Facebook recently and the comments caused many loving children to take fighting seriously as a way to improve relationships the world's way. I was not surprised that many were taking this advice but it made me think about how this person was making co-dependence out of his clients.He was using fighting and arguing as a way of keeping the money flow into his pocket. I made some comments to him about what he wrote and didn't like my comments because they were about working with the free will of each person instead of causing negative mindset in his clients and his readers on facebook.My question to him was "what about love to resolve the conflicts" instead of learning how to fight and argue? Love, peace, and harmony are not about fighting and argue and creating drama, are they? Are supposed to be peacemakers or fighters and tell people to not be afraid to fight? I read so many things in the Bible about how we are to help people to help themselves to talk to others about the disagreements they had with other they loved. I guess the question is "what about love and kindness and honesty in a relationship?" instead of talking about fears of fighting and arguing to gain anything like a compatibility or a long term relationship with anyone. Is it the future he is worry about or the present moment? Relationships are day to day moment to moment and having the mindset of "where is this going?" just isn't the way in a spiritual loved fills child of God. I mention unconditional love to this man and he said "I need conditions and rules to grow" He listed all his conditions he sets in his life and gives these conditions to his clients. I said,"this sounds like a very left brain ego protective mindset and unconditional love and free will are whole brain thinking.He said,"please un-follow me" I did just that.He wrote a post and didn't want anyone to give their point of view about a better way to stop the hate and fighting and keep our world in chaos. It was his way or the highway and brothers and sisters it is not his way that anyone should follow to become the spiritual beings we are.
Here is the full statement:
ReplyDeleteArgue As Soon As Possible
You don't know who you've chosen as your romantic partner, you don't know the honest depth of connection you have, until you get into an argument.
Be quiet. Observe yourself. Observe your partner.
Stop saying so much during an argument or you bind yourself to emotional blindness; you will never see the other accurately, nor yourself in relation to them.
Savor the argument, as it tells you if toxicity or healing is possible with this annoying or gorgeous soul. - Derek Hart
If you understand it properly, he is not telling you to argue for the sake of arguing but when you do you will see the true person.
This, I believe is a true statement....i did not know how vicious a partner could be until we disagreed.
I guess you missed the parts in the Bible where people argued and disagreed. Peter and Paul come to mind as they disagreed often. What about Yeshua clearing the temple , what about all of the councils where they disagreed on just about everything. You might want to think twice about bringing the Bible into this situation.
The problem is that you feel everyone should agree with you.