THE INNER CHILD 'S EXPERIENCES ARE THE BEST LESSONS.

Dear inner child,

The best lessons come from our experiences in our childhood.All our feelings, desires and emotions are attached to childhood drama and trauma and memories of abuses in our subconsciousness mind. Many people repress their childhood memories because of they don't want to remember and others keep the memories alive in their adult life. And then there are the ones that need to understand and to become aware of the emotional problems in their adult life who are now doing the discovering answers with their inner child work. Some of the memories are suppressed on purpose by the adult child and a deep in the subconsciousness and make take longer to release to the conscious mind.The way to bring awareness to your own inner child's memories is to think about your experiences you had as a child.You might ask yourself "was I abandon and left alone to take care of myself by my caretaker? " If this is an experience that happened to you might be relationships issues of feeling you need someone to complete you.Your inner child needs support to make choices and control your life.Co-dependency is a hard fact of life to break and is in most inner children's experiences.Many people who are still seeking a co-decency relationship with others will take everything in a personal manner and become offended when their needs are met.Their child is suffering and wants comfort from others outside of themselves.They go from one relationship to another because their needs are more important than the person they are trying to relate to can't fill their expectation of their inner child.They end up sitting alone and thinking nobody loves them if they get someone to take care of them like a parent.We find the mama boys and the daddy's little girl in these groups.They have are always crying and going inward for security that was given by the parent that didn't give unconditional love or the parent that gave abuses love and their inner child wants their partner to be just like the type of love their parent gave them. The worse thing the partner can do is to become the parent for them because this will cause them not to cope and make choices on their own and they develop another co-dependency with you. Every relationship means both parties must relate to each other as adults.When we think about being equally yoked in a relationship with other adults in a workplace or living with someone there has to be agreement and respect for everyone's personal space and honoring free will of each is a priority.No adult needs to be told what to do by another adult.The best way to talk to another adult is to be an adult yourself.Allowing other adults to think for themselves and make their own choices and stop judging them. When one person rules over another person and controls them for a period of time there are effects to the self-esteem of the controlled person that sometimes takes years to repair the damages. It is possible to heal from an abusive relationship once the person controlled becomes aware and seeks help with inner child work.A soundboard trusted person who has experienced the same kind of relationships and has broken the cycle of this abuse can be your greatest breakthrough to listen to. Talking to someone who has not broken co-decency in their own lives will keep you repeating the problem.When seeking advice check out the personal life of the person you are getting advice from. We often create more co-decency with people who are saying they are just trying to help us.We really don't need their help we need to know how to break the cycle.There are some very good teachers that teach people to think and help you find your own answers to your problems.

What are trust issues?Trust is a belief and if the inner child has seen mistrust in the relationship with a caretaker or with a higher source outside of the world of the inner child will seek trust from others before starting anything.They see everything in black and white with no gray areas.Either they trust or don't trust with no benefit of the doubt given.They make choices based on the belief they can't trust and usually create fears of mistrusting. They become stuck and compare everyone with those that they couldn't trust with the new relationships that are trying to start.They say,"  you can't trust anybody" and they attract negatives of mistrust.Stopping the cycle of mistrust and believing in trusting can happening when trust issues are healed through forgiveness of the mistrust in the inner child.

Can't listen while someone is talking

or communicate your feelings?Did this come from your childhood experiences?Where you told,"children were only to be seen and not heard?" This program is still running in your subconsciousness. Start working on allowing your inner child to say what you need to say from your heart.Don't hold back and practice with those that will listen to you.Find a sounding board type of person who will honor your every word.