RELATIONSHIPS ARE PASSION WARS

Breaking up is not hard to do in fact it happens without our help.The war starts with conflicts between two people who are battling issues within themselves before they even knew you.How can we understand our own issues and other peoples issues?Usually, we know ourselves because we have the same issues in every relationship and other people have had the same issues.The trust issue is the main conflict and this first battle.You see people have been rejected because of this one issue more than any other.So if we face our own trust issues by trusting ourselves before we get into a new relationship we will know how to address the other person's trust issues.If we are having conflicts inside of us we bring those conflicts to new relationships.We all have heard about baggage right.Living in the now moment requires a peace of mind and peace comes from dealing with our own issues we created.The relating is part of every relationship we have with anybody.We expect others to be just like us and this is not really what relating means.We need to make adjustments and some things give up some of our desires until we get to know what the other persons desires are also. What are we passionate about and what are the people relating to passionate about. By listening or asking other people what they are desiring in their lives we will discover conflicts.This gives us a way to deal with the battles that are hidden in their emotions.Some people say it's my way or the highway and others say it's your way or our way of doing things.The battle lines are drawn by causes in the emotional attachments to other people outside of the relationship itself.What kind of families are involved in their decisions making?How do you make choices?Somethings need to be discussed with the partner first before asking friends or family.

There seven causes for anger.

1.ongoing resentments
2.rage and uncontrollably
3.critical judgements
4.sarcastic or off color remarks
5.stress related, mood swings
6.striking back, revenge
7.walking out

All of these lead to unresolved emotional break downs.The expectations of the future depend on how you handle the anger in the relationship and after the breakup.What caused the anger issues can be done differently and reacting to everything with one of these seven causes is not the answers to the future relating or relating to a partner.Think about how your anger and emotions separate you from who you are relating to now. Do you cause more conflicts to get your way?Remember you are only hurting yourself by any one of these seven.

It is very hard to love unconditional and we have heard that we should do this.Humans and even God set conditions .Where or how did unconditional love start? Well, it sounded like a good idea but was it morally correct? Can we love ourselves without setting conditions?If we can do it to ourselves how can we do it to others?The world runs on conditions and has all try our best to love the unlovely.Where we being realistic or where we really loving regardless of the situations we were placed in such as co-dependency of giving until we couldn't give enough.Do we think we can gain the whole worlds love and still keep our own soul?We must be balanced in everything we do.Loving self as we love others.And there are conditions to how much we love ourselves and others.