RELATIONSHIPS QUALITY OR QUANTITY?

A good question to ask ourselves when we are thinking about  our relationships in our life.What do we need may be different then what we want when it comes to choosing or keeping a relationship.We might not feel we can make a choice to stay in a relationship that is not the quality we need or another way of saying this is the other person is not living up to our standards. We do have some morals that are part of our quality.We work very hard to keep up the quality work in our working environments.In our personal relationships we want the same quality of love and respect given to us from the person we choose to have an ongoing relationship with.Can we expect quality in all our personal relationships? We may have not considered quality in the beginning of the relationship we are in and this was our choice to wait for changes in that person.Even though we know that we can't change others to fit our own quality standards we allow the other person to be a part of our life or we began to sabotage the relationship because the quality is not there.

Quantity means we more to some people in relationships and quality may not be there but they need someone and don't care what the other person gives to the relationship.They just want someone to be there as a companion and helper. The choice of quantity may mean to them that they have just settled for anyone because of the need for someone.The respect may not be present and the relationship is very controlling but the main reasons for the relationship was to keep up a false front for others.Many of them say  I have someone in my life and they have been with me for many years.So they are satisfied with the quantity and the quality was not important to them or they couldn't take the time to find another relationship that would  give them the qualities they may have wanted or need as they grow spiritually.

Can we have both quality and quantity in our relationships? The real question may be what do you really want and need in a relationship.Your can choose both if this is your intention to find this in a relationship you have started a relationship with in the beginning or refresh an old relationship by getting honest with yourself and the person you are in a relationship with.I think quality time is important to every type of relationship with our partners and children and we all know this.Usually we receive hours or days of quantity in some relationships and no commitments for our efforts of spending our time.We start questioning ourselves about our wasted time.We do need to ask ourselves is this the type of relationship we want or need? We may be waiting for the quality and only getting the quantity.When we wake up to who we really are and have chosen the wrong type of person to relate too we need to make a change by telling the person that we need more quality or quantity.If we want more phone calls or texting this is the quantity part that may be lacking to maintain the relationship.It may be the quality and this means more one on one communication may need a boost.So balance and integration of both in a relationship will help in all situations.