ISN'T LOVE ENOUGH?

Last night on my radio show a young woman called in on the phone and my first intuitive thoughts was to say"your heart is very heavy and almost broken" I could hear it in your voice and the images of her struggle flashes in my inner consciousness. I have heard that tone and inflection of depression from callers on my journey from callers and viewers on my cable television shows.I kinda predicted where this conversation was going to go but  I also knew that I needed to listen very carefully to her.She really didn't offer me too much of the facts so  I started by saying  I think you have conflicts in all your relationships due to the relationship with your birth mother.I could hear her thinking process in the back of my mind.She was confused by the chatter of all the influence from other people around her that had told her negative things about the people she dated for many years.She was told to her deserved "more" and positive words about herself or any type of advice was not getting through to her. I asked her if she loved the person she was dating and she said,"yes" and  I knew she would ask me if he loved her so I jump in to say He loves you too.Well, this should have made a change in her thoughts but she said,"I want more" I was a little bit shocked by that request and said,"You love him and he told you he loved you right?So what more do you want?" She said,"  I want to know if he is the one"? I said, "you meant the one and only one?" I followed with "you love him and He loves you right" so he would be the one you choose right? So he is the one you love?' She paused and couldn't understand the logical answer to her problem.She did mention she wanted him to be a man.  I let that phase go when  I first heard her say it.So  I went into her problems with her first relationship with her birth mother as a cause for the karma she was creating. She wanted to be a mother to every man she met and help them grow up.She didn't understand to concept of karma so  I let that go.This call was about her programming from the world from the marketing of the "more" in everything they try to sell us.I told her that you have love isn't that enough?She said," I want more"


So many people on our planet would love to have love from another person and to give love to someone that loves them.Humans are not things to processes and use for our own needs of selfishness and making us feel good about ourselves.Did  I really have to say that to her or you the reader?Maybe  I do and this may be the problem with relationships we need to uncover.The question is do we love for the sake of love and created love for ourselves and others? This caller and many of my clients are afraid of love and want something more than just love.They may want security or support or someone to change their lives for them and that is a very selfish reason to love.When the word love means to seduce someone and change them by helping them so you can make a slave out of them.Someone to love you and give you more.This is what she was talking about.She would motherly nature and take care of her procession and then close the trap by making the person feel guilty if they didn't turn into the man she thinks they should be.Is this the "black widow effect" in the insect world the spider seduces and after the sex act eats the seducers.This is an instinct of the spider.So humans have a primal instinct in their DNA to kill or get rid of their lovers after they have given love or sex to them?This word sabotage has been spoken about by me and others in relationships conversations.Was this caller sabotaging her relationships because of the programming of the world she had been influenced by? This needed of self-gratification  of wanted more is an interesting topic for future studies with me and others who are wanted more when they think "LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH"